You need to set boundary with them and give them the
freedom at the same time, you need to listen to them and want them to just shut
their mouth at well, yes! You hear me right. But how I can do that and what!?
The other day some conversation happens between my son’s
boss and me, yes! You hear me right again. She calls and leaves the message;
ask me to call her back as soon as possible. My heart is wondering and pounding,
why and what happen?
So I pray before the call back, pray during the phone
call conversation and pray and pray after hang up the phone with her.
That’s an embarrassing and awkward moment and knowing
that I should talk to my son long before this conversation. Glad that his boss
willing to give him the chance and be honest with some problem that needs to be
solved right away. The most of all, this, actually, giving me the best chance,
position and whatever that I need to open the discussion with him.
A talk between mom and teenage son is really tougher than
toughest. A lot of time, the words come out of my mouth and go into his brain
and then come out totally different meaning from I’m meant to tell him.
That’s why I have to pray so hard to God to give the
wisdom in using what way and expression toward him. And great that I can even
use some bible verses to do the explanations for me.
Want him to have the best understanding and not feeling
hurt and do the changes in the meantime.
A mom’s job is way beyond a teacher, a psychologist, and
a doctor can do. You can never give up or hide away in any circumstances. Take it
and completed the mission impossible, but not by yourself, with the Lord, I’ll
say.
Right before I open this dialogue on the way home, I have
a kind of giant burp, it rather a regular burp to me, but burp of release the
burden and guilt.
So we have the talk after the phone call, which is Sunday
after church, which is the younger one is with us, which is an only 15 minutes length
talk. And the second day, is the normally day that I give him the ride to the work;
it’s an around 20 minutes time one way that I can be alone with him and do the
communication more and I purposely and secretly plan a pick him up plan after
his work day. What do I mean here that I have to plan it; to not to let him
feel that I do that by intention, “oh! I happen to need to go home at that time”.
And probably you will guess that I must have a long and
hard prayer between God and me, to ask, how and what to use for this precious
short time to share and the like.
How do people succeed, by making right decision, how to
make a right decision, by experiences, how to gain experiences, by make mistakes.
It’s so true and cruel at the same time.
Through this episode, for sure, it is a better way and obtains
a preferable comprehension too. Help is not just coming from the positive
suggestion but some not quite comfortable event too.
Yet whether at home, church or workplace, it’s just a
tiny little part of our life, likewise, the people or situations or the like that
you’ll encounter. Mind learns from the hurt, the fall and etc. from it. Don’t
take it as an offense of every word, don’t do thing that you’ll regret later,
well, it’s not possible, but at least try really hard.
Never fight alone and choice God be your boss on
everything.
1 Corinthians 3:16-17 Do you not know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you? If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him, for the temple of God is holy, and that is what you are.
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